recovery – Joyful Healing, Dogs and Quilts

Grandmother

As I read an article on Facebook yesterday, I realized my grandmother was no healthier than my mom. When my parents moved from St. Louis, I begged to stay with my aunt. I didn’t want to go to my grandparents. I had a job and could have supported myself but my father refused; he madeContinue reading “Grandmother”

Chaos with a side of order

I continue to rein the house in. It feels chaotic but I realized tonight I am, plodding along, and cleaning three rooms. It’s a painfully slow process that is taking longer than I would like but, each day, a little more is moved. Tonight, a dresser was emptied and I have a plan to replaceContinue reading “Chaos with a side of order”

Joyful Quilts

I came home and my husband wasn’t feeling good (barking dogs and such) so spent the day in bed. I took it as a chance to take the day and finish the fourth of July quilt and then iron the star and moon. It turned out to have two stains but I’m going to haveContinue reading “Joyful Quilts”

The Ones We Marry

I read once we become involved with people most like the parent we had the most trouble with if we aren’t healed. And, once we heal, it can put great strain on our relationship if the partner sees no issue with their behavior towards us. I am there. My husband is disabled. The women heContinue reading “The Ones We Marry”

Let’s Get Something Done

Tomorrow is the day my friend is coming to help clean and organize things. Mostly bookcases this time. Will move a few things to storage on Thursday. If we can get that done, I can work on the bedroom bit by bit over the weekend as we work on the bathroom. My friend is thisContinue reading “Let’s Get Something Done”

Freedom

Everything I move upstairs feels like freedom. I am, slowly, moving Anna’s boxes out and second handing a ton of my things. My bio mom was the only neat hoarder I have ever know. I sold her house (and got taken) quickly after she passed. I threw stuff in boxes and moved it and thenContinue reading “Freedom”

I’m Proud of You

I have just started reading the book “Mean Mom” by Peg Streep. She talks about how all mothers, at some point, are resentful of their daughters. I have one daughter and three daughters in love. I celebrate each of their victories with them. Two are making huge steps in personal growth. You go girls!!! OneContinue reading “I’m Proud of You”

Welcome to Joyful Healing, Dogs and Quilting

In my blog, I hope to share insight into healing from a difficult childhood. My mom suffered from borderline personality disorder and was, most likely, a sociopath. She isolated me from family (I have now reconnected with) and she did her best to make sure I was the failure she said I was but, afterContinue reading “Welcome to Joyful Healing, Dogs and Quilting”